If you are still coming back for more, the chances are good that you would like to lessen your complaining and grow your contentment. I've given you some ways to begin making small changes on your path to becoming a more optimistic person, but have you ever considered what impression you might be giving off by regular griping and moaning? Once you know some of the effects this can have on your reputation, you will probably be more motivated to make a change. Let's take a look at how others perceive your complaining so that you can use that information to propel you toward your goals.

First of all, hearing you complain frequently is apt to put people on the defensive. This is especially true if you're complaining about them, but it also comes into play when you're criticizing anyone else. Those hearing your complaints may start to wonder why it is you're so critical all the time. They may feel attacked, leading them to jump to the defense of themselves or others. An occasional complaint is much easier to swallow than those that seem never ending.

There are so many ways that people interact with us that can tell someone if you are authentically connecting, or are instead more of an energy vampire. Do you respond to being self centered, do you respond to being unaware of your energy, do you respond to being a downer that just wants to throw others under the bus in order to get to your purpose driven life?

Did you ever stop to think that being this energy might send the message to others that you're not there to help but rather to constrict their energy? Complainers have a way of shirking responsibility, blaming anyone else for problems in order to avoid accepting any part of a problem. They also may be a vocal complainer in order to get out of doing what needs to be done or proactively taking part in a solution to their problems. This is definitely not a message you want to send.

Also, people tend to distrust someone that over time burns bridges again and again. They may come to believe you would be just as critical of them as you are of the other people you are discussing. It's hard to trust someone who seems to only see the negative side of a situation, or that never sees their part of the energy breakdown. If this describes you, it's important to understand the type of vibe you're giving off.

That's right. This constant negative energy behind closed doors is sending all kinds of messages about you, and none of them are positive. The bottom line is that you're developing a negative reputation among those who regularly hear your complaints. No matter what conclusions they've drawn about you and your griping, the end result is one that paints you in a bad light.

The fact of the matter is, there are more interpersonal consequences to constant complaining than I have time to mention here. You're doing damage to your reputation and the ways in which you're seen by others. The good news is that this damage can be lessened and you can overcome it by making the concrete changes you're learning, and putting into practice. True alignment with the divine source can be assisted by using Cinnamon, Jasmine, Patchouli, Sandalwood, Thyme and Ylang Ylang and open up some possibilities for change.

What can you invite into your life right now, that will bring an awareness that disallows complaints to control your being?

Congruency is the act of being in the moment. Any day now you will start understand the ways in which the brain changes in response to regular complaining. You're also aware that these patterns can be changed, making positive thinking come more naturally with practice. While it won't be easy to break the complaining habit, it might help to understand the benefits of choosing contentment, and congruency, over complaints. When you make a proactive decision to kick complaints to the curb, you'll start to see a number of good things happen.

One of the first things you may note is that you feel more relaxed. Letting go of gripes about things you probably can't change anyway will lead you to feel less stressed. Complaining on a regular basis can cause you to feel frenzied and on edge. Deciding to try to change your perspective when things don't go your way can increase your relaxation and lower your stress.

Ending the complaint cycle is likely to lead to greater happiness. When you consciously decide to make a change, you usually engage in some self-assessment. You take a hard look at what's bringing you down, what's at the root of your dissatisfaction. Not to mention the ways in which your brain begins to restructure itself. Your neurons will begin to form efficient connections toward more positive thinking, and your levels of the stress hormone cortisol will begin to decrease. Happier feelings are just around the corner when you start to complain less.

Speaking of connection, your relationships with other people will surely improve when you drop the Paula Pouting routine. People will be more enthusiastic about connecting with you. No one likes to be around people who are negative all the time. In addition, once you begin to make a conscious effort to lessen your moaning and groaning about others, you'll naturally feel more empathy and compassion toward them. This type of understanding goes a long way toward strengthening bonds between people.

As you begin to achieve some success when you reframe your complaint into a statement of the moment or even into a question, you'll start to feel more confident and secure in yourself. It's empowering to know that you're in charge of your feelings and actions. This boost in self-esteem is likely to build on itself, allowing you to feel stronger in other decisions across your life. It's amazing how making one small change can be the catalyst for making even bigger alterations to your life.

These are merely a few of the ways your life will improve when you choose contentment over complaints. I'm excited for you to discover all the great things that are yet to come

Over the next short while, we'll be covering a great deal of information to help you kick complaining to the curb in order to reveal your more harmonious being. This may seem like a tall order and even a bit overwhelming, but I'll be breaking the material down into manageable pieces, so don't worry.

As we hit each area, we'll examine a new aspect of ditching the complaints in favor of contentment. There are lots of concrete steps you can take to banish complaining for good. It just takes a little practice and effort to break old habits.

Complaining can become a very destructive habit, and energetically it will invite more to complain about because energy aligns to it. When you learn to curb your complaints, you'll notice a shift in your life. Learning to lessen the frequency of your complaints doesn't mean that you'll never feel negative emotions again or that things won't ever upset you. However, making a concerted effort to stop complaining is about your overall mindset and the frequency with which you complain. Frequency of course is not just how often, but also what energy level you are creating within your being, and around your being.

Changing your ways and adopting a new mindset won't happen overnight, but it's definitely worth the effort. Constant complaining can become a cycle that's hard to stop. People will begin to form an impression of you based on your moaning and groaning. Unfortunately, that impression is usually a negative one.

There are tons of benefits to adopting a cheerier disposition. In addition to leaving a better impression on others and improving your reputation, you'll simply feel better as you develop a more positive mindset. People who complain often feel that they have no choices or that life is something that just happens to them. They don't feel in control of their circumstances. When you shift that mindset, you'll start to feel empowered and in charge. Taking a proactive approach to your life puts you in the driver's seat.

Ditching the complaining and trying to look on the bright side isn't just fluff. It truly will bring good things to your world. You'll start to notice less anger and hostility, along with the host of negative emotions that go along with them. Everything won't seem to overwhelming and difficult. When you take on a more positive view by making real efforts to limit your bemoaning, optimism is a natural result.

You'll simply feel more content in every aspect of your life. No, it won't be easy. However, if you join me over the next month, I am confident you'll see that change is possible. Let's dive in and begin to explore the ways you truly can turn complaints into contentment.

To start we begin our journey toward turning complaints into contentment. I want to talk about the ways in which spreading constant negativity is harming your life. From your personal relationships to your career, complaining can take a toll and cause damage to all of the things you hold dear. This also includes your physical and emotional health. It's important to understand just what a high price you pay for complaining if you truly want to overcome this destructive habit. Let's look at just some of the ways your life suffers at the hands of complaining.

People don't like to be around complainers. Hearing nothing but negativity from a friend or loved one is a huge turnoff for most folks. Constant complaining can be contagious. Have you ever noticed that it tends to be easy to slip into a habit of moaning and groaning when you're around a Negative Nancy? Unfortunately, it's possible that you're the bad influence. If this is the case, it's likely your circle has taken notice. Most of us make an effort to avoid spending time with toxic people because we know it's bad for our own mental health to surround ourselves with their bad attitudes day in and day out. Being a daily complainer will probably be a fast track ticket to losing some of the important people in your life.

Your professional reputation is one of the most valuable things you have. Not only must you be topnotch at your job in order to move ahead in your career, but you also need to possess soft skills like good communication and strong listening ability. Your people skills are definitely noticed when it comes to your work life. How you conduct yourself, get along with and lead others all play into your success. If you're known as a constant complainer, you can pretty much guarantee yourself career stagnation. Those who never seem happy and are always griping aren't known to be good leaders. No matter how skilled you are at your position, you probably won't excel if you gain a reputation as a complainer. Positive and content professionals are what managers look for when it comes to hiring and promotions.

Your physical and emotional health may face the biggest impact when it comes to constant complaining. In fact, it's been shown that your brain actually rewires itself for negativity when faced with regular bouts of griping. That's because neural pathways form to accommodate activities such as complaining. Soon, these habits become ingrained into your neural functioning, making it easier to come back to these patterns again and again. Chronic complaints have also proven to shrink the hippocampus, the part of the brain that is responsible for problem solving, and to increase the hormone cortisol, known as the stress hormone. Cortisol affects a wide range of bodily functions, including the regulation of blood pressure, memory formulation, metabolism, inflammation, blood sugar and immune system.